I did not have a hard time coming to the decision to have an abortion. I think the worst part of the whole process was feeling bad that I didn’t feel “bad enough”, if that makes any sense. Growing up, it had always seemed like even the pro-choicers were apologetic, and only supportive of abortion because the alternative would be “coat hangers in a back alley”. Abortion was conveyed as a thing that only whores or irresponsible idiots had to go through, but a necessary evil to protect the whores and idiots from killing themselves as well as their babies, so abortion had to remain legal. While the “coat hanger” point is an important part of the pro-choice argument, it shouldn’t be the entire argument. Women should have the right to know that it’s okay to feel relieved and happy after an abortion, and not apologetic and guilty. A Google search for “abortion” reveals so many sites with ridiculous names like “Silent Teardrops”—sites designed to scare and guilt women away from making the best choices for themselves. It may not be the best choice for everyone, but it definitely was for me. I was relieved and happy right after, and I’m relieved and happy to this day. Thank you for providing this outlet of support.
I had started dating a friend (who probably should have just remained a friend) and we had drunk, unprotected sex once or twice.
Some simple mathematics:
Raising any stable, happy, and healthy future children depended on a stable income and stable family structure, and having a child at 25 would have ruined their potential lives, as well as my own.
I had a child before I had finished school or had anything that represented financial stability. I can honestly attest that it has not ruined any of our lives. People ruin lives, not situations.
I was relieved and happy right after, and I’m relieved and happy to this day. Thank you for providing this outlet of support.
I don’t understand; is she thankful for an outlet of support for excessive relief & happiness?
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